One of the most important results you can bring into the world is the you that you really want to be.
We first make our habits and then our habits make us.
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No one was born with low self-esteem, no one was born with an eating disorder and no one was born biting their nails, stressed or with a tendency to procrastinate. All habits are behaviours we have learned and practised so often that they have become second nature. And because they are part of our second nature, and not our first, we are closer to our true selves without them. We only feel that they are a part of us because we have practised them for so long and are conditioned to have them. We often end up feeling that they are who we are. They are not.
Like many of the other essential skills we learn as we grow, such as talking, eating and walking, habits are behaviours learned by watching others and copying them because these habits appear to make others look good and/or feel good. The motivation to learn is no different: we believe we are smoking/eating more/compulsively cleaning/procrastinating in our own best interests - to make ourselves happy. So we practise these behaviours, believing that they will not only make us feel better about, but also think better of, ourselves, and help to make a reality of the person we think we would like to be.
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