Pete writes: Some time ago I was working with a former Olympian sports medallist who, minutes before we were due to stand up to do a presentation in front of 100 people, disappeared into the Gents saying he wanted to get himself ready. This for him meant standing in a semi-crouched position, his knees bent and one foot in front of the other, shouting at the top of his voice: 'YES, YES, YES.' Others passing by outside might have wondered what was going on, but he did not care. All that concerned him was getting into the right state to give the best presentation he could.
Think of some of the professional sportspeople you might have watched on television. Many of them make what may sound to us like strange noises, or shout particular words as they hit a tennis ball or throw a football. They do this because, having practised over and over, they have come to know the result it will produce.
Recall the affirmation you wrote in the belief exercise (page 30).
Write it down again here:_
We are going to ask you to do the Future You exercise again (page 98).
This time, when you step into the future you we want you to repeat your affirmation to yourself, out loud or in your head, and at the same time do some physical movement to maximize the effect of this affirmation. Some people like to make a fist and punch the air, or draw their clenched fist back towards their waist as they would on having achieved a much sought-after goal. One friend of ours looks in the mirror, smiles, clenches his fist and says: 'Go baby, go', while another does the Can Can! It need not be that dramatic, but with practice, it will work.
Find some sort of physical movement you can do as you recite your affirmation which reinforces the feeling of 'I can'. We know that this can help you to get into a state ready for change.
Try doing it now: your own 'Power Move' should help you to feel the words in your affirmation throughout your body.
Doing this in a rather half-hearted way will not do. We need conviction.
If the words 'Power Move' sound uncomfortable for you, call it your Success Signal, or even Dave.
1 Imagine standing outside your front door.
2 The door opens and you see yourself in the future, having broken your habit.
3 You are feeling stronger, more powerful and in control.
4 Look at that you.
5 In a moment you are going to step into that you as though you were trying on how it feels.
6 As you step in, repeat the affirmation and do your Power Move or Success Signal.
DO IT NOW!
Once you have done this exercise a few times at home and are skilled at it, you can do it almost anywhere, though you don't have to say the affirmation out loud. Repetition enforces the message, so the more often you can do it, the better.
Fate somehow ensures that certain events come to pass; how they are handled it leaves to you.
A consultant friend of ours told us that he always received many accolades at the end of his group sessions, but tended to brush them off. Then one day he decided that those who complimented him must have good reason, and were probably not in the habit of lying, so he began looking in the mirror before he left for work each day playing back to his reflection some of the compliments he regularly received.
By living out the person he was told he was, his work got better, as did the commendations. When one woman once remarked on how attractive he was, he repeated the technique and within weeks dozens more women were making comments on his appearance. Believing that other people believed these things about him helped this consultant to behave as they were expecting, but to an even greater and more demonstrative extent.
From now, instead of criticizing yourself, get into the much more useful habit of beginning and ending your day by looking in the mirror and repeating your affirmation with or without your Power Move. Do it whenever you see your reflection or when you need to motivate yourself for a particular task. See what sort of a difference it makes, both to your behaviour and your attitude towards and about yourself. You are the only one who can give yourself self-confidence.
Is there someone you have watched undergo a remarkable change? It might be losing weight, changing career or just being happier. A friend of ours who began exercising underwent just such a change. His sour expression disappeared, his beer-belly started to shrink and he looked happier and more in control of his life. We all wanted to know how he had
Be curious always! For knowledge will not acquire you, you must acquire it.
iutlW' Back done it. If you know or ever meet anyone who tells of or demonstrates a similar life-changing transformation, why not ask them how they did it? Their formula may not work the same wonders for you, but it would be worth a try.
The more you depend on forces outside yourself, the more you are dominated by them.
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