Right now, you can change. We have seen people do it. We have watched 60-a-day smokers stop for good. We have seen people lose more weight than they ever dreamed possible. We have seen people become more positive about themselves and build up their self-esteem, and generally enjoy life more.
We won't give up on you, because we believe in you. We love people who put up their hands and say: 'Hey, I have got a problem and I want to change it,' because what you are saying is you want your life to get better and you are prepared to do something different and new. Now we need you to make that decision to change, and stick with it, whatever it takes. It is often surprising how very little it takes.
Being told by others that stopping smoking (or changing any other habit) is difficult does not mean you will find it difficult. The harsh circumstances some people have to endure, which we cannot even begin to imagine, do not stop them from changing. They simply make a decision, and change.
Pete writes: At the age of five I was told I was dyslexic. Nearly all of my school reports said that I was unable to concentrate, and at the age of 10 a top educational specialist told my parents that I was not an academic child. A-levels and any kind of higher education, they were told, were completely out of the question. I could quite easily have accepted this widely-held view of my academic potential, but I did not. I now have more degrees than GCSEs.
It is not your conditions, but your decisions that will determine whether or not you succeed.
What stage are you at in changing your ways? Have you made a real decision?
What are the first five things you are going to do differently? We can help you generate the self-belief, but you must first decide you want it.
In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity.
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Did you hear about the man who prayed to the goddess asking to win the lottery? 'It shall be done,' came the goddess' reply. When he hadn't won a week later, the man prayed again, begging for a win. 'Yes, all right,' answered the goddess. Another week passed, and still the man had not won. He asked the goddess why. 'For goodness' sake,' she snapped. 'Meet me half-way. Buy a ticket!'
You might think you have bought that winning ticket by buying and now reading this book. But the real ticket to success is doing the exercises and taking the time to change. It is up to you whether you use this ticket. To hit the jackpot, you have to commit yourself.
Start to make the whole process just that bit easier for yourself by thinking of changing your habit not as a problem, but as a challenge. We do understand why you think it is going to be difficult, but this is not the first time we have helped someone break a habit, and you are no different from the many others who have succeeded. We simply showed and taught them how to use their minds to serve them, rather than allow what they have always done to rule their lives.
The simple truth is this: if you carry on doing what you have always done, the chances are you will continue to get the same results. The difference that will make things change is learning how to behave in new ways.
An incredible amount of energy goes into continuing with our habits. Procrastinators, those with eating disorders, smokers, etc., are almost always strong people with huge quantities of energy and self-will who are simply misdirecting their potential.
The chains of habit are too weak to be felt until they are too strong to be broken.
Change is never a loss - it is change only.
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How about your own outdated habit? How much energy and time go into cultivating it? You can change by using that energy and time in more productive ways.
Each of us is responsible for learning whichever behaviour we have - perhaps unintentionally - adopted. If we truly want to change, we must simply apply the same skills we used to acquire the habit to do something more positive.
Some people say they are too lazy to change, but all 'being lazy' means is they don't like the idea of change or believe they can achieve it. People are not lazy when it comes to doing the things they like. It is merely that they associate some form of discomfort with change, and as a result can't motivate themselves to give it a try.
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